Life Brings Ups & Downs - Accepting Your Fate ...

Life:Work In Progress...©
Sep 10, 2018
7 min read

Updated: Jun 29, 2021

Fate is a doorway to enlightenment, power and greater self awareness.

Life now and ahead has been and is scary for many, but it needn't be this way.

The fear that people have about the future and fate causes unnecessary stress and depression eventually causing physical ill health.

I’ve opened myself up to fate and all it brings - now I am in the flow and able to live peaceful in the now.

To fully embody what comes - my fate

It brings things I couldn’t have imagined.

In the past, when I was fear driven, I was not at one with anything therefore closing me and my capacity up to everything.

Our capacity is huge.

Removing fear in ones life hasn’t been easy and even led me to suicide feelings in the past…but life past these ego based, fear driven life challenges is utterly blissful.

I am open to loss now and with this loss brings acceptance.

Loss is a way to more, even if it presents as a painful emotion.

I am a 42 year old unmarried lady (for most women of this age this brings some kind of feeling of failure or sadness) who has a skin and immune system medical issue right now (which is not worrying me in any way as I am learning so much about how my body works and is changing around seasons, food and environmental factors) , no stable house for the past 18 months but living in several places, no fixed income (self employed and choosing to accept working less for more self care time) and the memories of losing both parents, a baby and 4 siblings…sounds terrible right?

…but I am the most peaceful and content person I know and wouldn’t change my life with anyone.

I feel like one of the most successful people that I know.

How?

Because I have no fear anymore of what life may or may not bring.

Too many life coaches, 'spiritual' people/texts talk about how success as a self healing processes which then manifests in a 'successful' material and emotional external world - like attracts like, however there isn't much written about the concept of living in utter peace but not always having the best external situation around - as these karmas or energetically charged events that one lives can come at any time and not related to how well you value yourself or indicative of your inner spiritual success. The book 'The Secret' talks of manifesting and in the past I thought that imagining the outer world would be a reflection of my inner success - that I had 'made it' but in fact quite the opposite was to be true. I was a good 'manifester' and always created my inner desired realities in the external world but still not happy or wanting the next level - the peace i have now is a total acceptance of what comes - my fat and my destiny. There is a debate about fate, a life to be and also of manifesting whatever one desires, but from my personal experience it is the former that has bought me the peace that sustains a blissful life now - as i am in full acceptance of what ever comes - the good, the bad and the ugly. This is life - a mix of so many tragedies and exciting events and so for me, trying to only create and manifest only perfect life events (as no one wishes to create challenging life situations) is not at all peaceful. A fear based lifestyle if you like.

Learning not to get so self-absorbed in one's own psychological matters/complexities/issues and to let go of the ego are key... To adopt a 'no victim' mentality is vital.

There is no right or wrong and I am not here to convince anyone of any idea, but simply to share my journey and vast experience that has led me to a life of contentment - through all the 'good and bad'. If your journey has helped you and guided you to your truth and you are able to sleep well at night as you are anxiety free and hold no hate for yourself, others or your past then that is blessed. I am in competition with no one and simply sharing my personal life as a tool that may assist someone in theirs - as I learn EVERYDAY from people around me and situations - I hope to do the same for others so that we could steer away from the idea that material success is success, that challenging life events or medical issues are somewhat a reflection of our inner emotional state (they are to some extent but thats to do with the souls journey from many lives and not necessarily only this life), that a simple life isn't a successful life and that being poor and alone are states that surely can't bring peace and contentment...

I am one with my journey and accept the fate I have been dealt - loss is part of it, as is change and transformation and I have learned to be open to it, embrace it and live fully in it. I would never have expected to accept these life challenges and this healthy way of approaching life has exceeded all my expectations of what a ‘successful’ life is.

In the past, losing my health, house, job, love or space sent me into depressive and suicidal, angry and resentful states, not to mention cold and rigid - but in these years of approaching these life challenges in an open and ‘ok’ way, has led to a life outlook and lifestyle that is extremely satisfying and powerfully peaceful.

Wasting time on manifesting and ‘controlling’ the future thinking I knew what I needed hasn’t been successful in my personal journey - I got what I wanted/manifested but then lost them time after time - for it’s not the objects and scenarios that were to bring peace and happiness, but instead the learning of embracing my fate. To feel and be open but not having to act upon the daily feelings that life events and challenges bring. Manifesting is fear based, coming from the ego of our desires, needs and ‘I deserve…’

I don’t pray for things, only for gratitude. Gratitude brings happiness.

I don’t manifest for scenarios, only reflect on what’s been.

I don’t fear the future, I embrace my fate.

Life isn’t a quest for only happiness as that is just one momentary emotion as is anger, but instead learning how to live in both the light and dark with a feeling of contentment, not happiness. One can not be happy if a loved one passes away but can be content instead with who they have loved and what they have now. Who isn’t free from personal, family, financial, health, housing or marital challenges? Searching for happiness will bring sadness...

I wouldn’t swap my life with anyone’s because of the ongoing contentment and peace that resonate within me no matter what each day brings …it’s not ok to be happy when you face life challenges. You can be positive however and sad at the same time-it’s ok and normal to feel sad. The positivity of letting yourself be sad will heal your wounds more so than putting your happy face on... give yourself permission to let yourself fall apart to rebuild. Be positive about the healing journey but not with a smile...

‘Some days a warrior, some days a hermit’

On my journey to peace I learned about the ebb and flow of feelings which like nature will take you to both light and dark places inside you ~ both valid and necessary but not getting stuck in either state being the objective ~ I learned to make time daily to reflect on and analyse the patterns in my own natural emotional and physiological circadian rhythm with those of nature and planetary magnetic energies along with the effects of food chemistry and people around me... some days will bring you to your best and others to what looks like your worst but really just opportunities to fall down and rest, to hit the pause button on your mind and trust the flow of life even if that has taken you to a terrifying and uncertain place. As a person who has faced death and so many challenges in the face along with losing all my family, learning to lay low on the days of the hermit and accept that it’s a passing moment really helped unlock inner wisdom that we all have inside us. Wisdom that life challenges will trigger you to find rather than get caught in the drama of it all. Be the hermit and be the warrior - we are everything and everything is valid taking us eventually to a whole and solid place...

Learning to turn challenges and traumas into wisdom has been the most valuable tool I have known. With age comes a knowing that experiences can be faced from a higher perspective and bring peace to your inner world. Being able to let go of other peoples reactions to you and their expectations or judgements is a wonderful thing. Derived from living in a no ego state inevitably making you more humble and there more peaceful as you have nothing to prove and no one to impress.

I am now 45 and still hold this peace, even with a life of uncertainty. I live, I love and I learn each day and with humility not to ever think I am better than anyone or to expect anything from anyone or any outcome - this has been a massive work in progress as we are taught from a young age to expect to be the best or be rewarded at work for effort and for relationships to last forever if you are doing everything right.. My journey to peace has shown me that nothing is promised and so live and love fully with connection and vulnerability but not to fall apart (not for too long anyway) if results and outcomes are not the way you imagined. I had a recent break up and I loved fully but know that the person owes me nothing - no one does so to accept this fate and to not talk badly of them.

Accepting fate each day means taking the good, the bad and the ugly in my stride - neither having an inflated ego when something good happens nor feeling sad for too long if something challenging comes my way. This doesn't mean not feeling or being strong - quite the opposite actually. To be fully open and vulnerable and to be in the world and get close to people is the way - to be strong and block yourself in a wall and not feel emotions or trust people is so far from the healthy vibration that I am suggesting.

To be strong is to be open and vulnerable.

Contact Michelle for a vedic scientific chart analysis to see where you could improve your feelings towards your own particular life journey...

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